To Move or Not to Move

Long distance relationships can suck the life out of you, they can cause riffs, create problems, wreak havoc on your decision making abilities, and make you question what's important in your life. No matter what the reasons, you live where you live because it's more important than being with your boo, and he lives where he lives because it's more important than being with you.

That was tough, wasn't it? Sorry. It's true.

I've come to terms with it. Especially because I have a job I love, people that surround me with their company, love and support, and a family that grants me visits with a most adorable nephew whenever I want. It's hard to stop everything and move to a different city in a different state to a different job and certainly no friends. It's hard to admit that I'm comfortable where I am. That if it was up to me, he'd live here. With me. Along with my friends and family, and job and favorite restaurants. That if it was up to me, we'd be together in my town of choice, with my people of choice, having Christmas at my mom's because that's what I always do, the food is always good, and the company is even better. If it was up to me, it would be what I say, when I say, whenever I say.

But it's not. Because he has more important things in his life than just me. He has a son he's fighting for. A good job that pays the bills. He has friends and a favorite grocery store. He has great neighbors, and cool coworkers. He has an awesome boss, and great benefits. He has that town with all the seasons, and that bike route he discovered one sunny morning.

So when he asked me to move in with him it took my breath away, but it also scared me to my core. Leaving the life I know and love is not easy. It won't be an easy decision, but it's one I have to make.

If I move, he wins. If he moves, I win. But is this really a game? That's what I have to figure out.